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Subject: [humanmarkup-comment] WHAT HAPPENED?!?
I thought this might be an interesting topic; I'm
going to try to explain what happened in the best way possible.
Ok, lets take a "hypothetical" situation where you
and I get into this "fight", one based on conflict of interests.
Let's say that you and I have a pretty good, decent
friendship. And let's say I did something that really pissed you
off. And by the same token, I see that YOU did something that really
pissed ME off. We end up not talking for a couple months because of that
strain. We both can't UNDERSTAND WHY we got into this mess, considering
we're good friends. So eventually we open back up to each other and
begin to describe how we reacted and why.
After a few hours of talking back and forth, we
both get nowhere near understanding each other. What pissed you off may
have been no big deal to me, and what pissed ME off may have been no big deal to
YOU. We try to put ourselves in each others shoes, but the 100%
understanding is never really there. That strain is still there from that
hurt, but is it worth giving up a friendship over that?
See, I think we end up knowing a person's sore spot
(vulnerable point), and we be careful not to infringe on it. But we never
really understand WHY that is a person's sore spot.
Does this kinda make sense? Is there another
way to tackle this? Do any of you have any idea what I'm talking
about? Too many friends are lost b/c of these situations, and even after
opening back up to each other, I wonder if we are off any better or closer to
each other than before? This has happened to me about 3 times already
over the past 3 months. I seem to be batting 1.000 ;-) Ok, I lied,
this is not really a hypothetical situation, it's real... Hey, it's not
like you can continue the friendship and just ignore the "hurt" that was
done... So...
Maybe I should be writing to Dr. Joyce
Brothers...
-Walt
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